My kids call her "Tor"

She is a special girl in my life. She is in her teens and has the whole world at her feet. She can sing, she plays the guitar, she is in the honors track at school and she is gorgeous. I love her as if she was my own. I wish I lived closer so that I could go to her games and watch her perform at school. She loves my kids as much as I love her and I feel blessed that she is comfortable enough in my house to come up and stay overnight to visit.
There is one thing, though, that makes me nervous for her... but seeing as she isn't mine, I don't know that it is my place to say anything. She loves the computer (and texting on her phone LOL). When she comes up she goes on the computer at night...or whenever she can sneek away........and it makes me nervous. I find myself fighting an internal battle over whether I should tell her so, or just let it be as I'm not her mom. (Sgt. Safety is on the job, I'm sure!)
Here is what I would like to say to her: You are still young, but look like you could be older. I know that at your age you are on the verge of soooo much, that life is getting interesting and there are boys and friends and that being older is very appealing, but I wish that I could tell you that with all the good out there, there is also a lot of bad. Peer pressure bad. Smoking, drinking, drugs and sex. With the web, it just adds another dimension. She interacts with people in far off places. She is in love with a guy in another state named Raf or Rex or some such thing. I pray that it is on the up-and-up and he is a regular teen just like her, but you just never know. Honestly. You never know. She showed me his pic, but how do you know it is his pic? How do you really know that it isn't a pic of some slimy guy's kid brother or nephew? You really don't.
I post to a mother's board. We actually had a woman on there replying to threads and posting about her "impending" birth and all about her other children when someone else came along and recognized her. Turns out she wasn't pregnant, was posting pictures of the kids she babysat, and none of it was real! She was faking not only her family, but pregnancy! Blew me away, but it does happen....alll the time.
I know that my girl takes precautions like not posting her correct name, age, or town, but she needs to think that the other kids are, too! It makes me crazy. Ugh! What am I going to do when my own kids reach this age??? I spend enough time just worrying about Tor~!
Then there are the boys. Boys are nasty little hormone machines at this age and with her looking so beautiful and wearing the low-cut shirts and all, I just worry for her. There is no need to grow up so fast. The next ten years of her life are have the potential to be fantastic- the years where she will make friends, become independent and start to plan her future and realize her dreams. I just hope and pray that she believes in herself enough, that she knows how special she really is, that she won't bow to the pressure of others to do drugs, get drunk or screw around just because a boy says she should or else it means she doesn't love him. Tor, I am telling you, if a boy says that then set him free because he doesn't love YOU enough to wait for you to be ready. I know you don't want to hear it, but you are still young. Enjoy it. Rejoyce in it. Have fun with it, but be true to yourself and your own values.
OK, I am ranting and need to reel myself in. She is just so precious that after I see her it keeps me up nights worrying for her. But then I think that she IS a smart girl who has a great set of parents who have done a fantastic job raising her and I think- hey, she knows what is going on. Sgt. Safety has taught her well and she knows the score. She will be OK.
I love you, Tor.